Difficulties after human death in Asian Countries

We used to hear and know that living in this world is difficult due to the high expense of managing daily livelihood. But in Asian countries, families of the expired/deceased person find more problems in performing his/her funeral activities. In India & Pakistan, you certainly need a huge amount of money to fulfill the last ceremonial activities of the expired person of your family or friend  according to the rituals of the religion and human made norms of the society.  Many easily manages the certainly emerged need due to having adequate income sources whereas, other find it extremely hard on this occasion and request other people (from family, friends etc) for help. Even they take loan to perform the required activities.

Immediate after death expenses are as follow;

  • getting a space in the graveyard require minimum Rs.15000/- to Rs. 90,000/- ($133 to $798) or more in urban areas of Pakistan to get the expired man buried (these days, space in some graveyards are available according to class level). Many have to give bribe to the incharge graveyard in order to get the desired place especially in government owned graveyards where space is not available but only the incharge know
  • family of the deceased need money to buy material to perform the religious death rituals such as body wash & white cloth is required to cover  it.
  • Normally a special person is hired in urban areas (cities) for services to do all work (body wash, fulfilling religious obligations etc) on high charges i.e. from Rs.2000 to Rs. 10,000) even many volunteer or do not charge
  • deceased family has to make arrangements for the guests arriving at their home (chairs, tents, food etc). Most of the guests lives with the deceased family for more then 10 days or even a month in the name of condolence (just imagine the situation when u have lost someone dearest & you are in shock and you are also catering the burden of guests by serving them food etc and they don’t want to go back to their home….hehehehe)
  • Shifting the body to graveyard, sometimes vehicle is required and it charges alot of money especially when you have to shift the body from one city to other on the desire of deceased
  • Religious figure charges money for offering final funeral prayers

About 15 years back, people coming for condolence with the family of deceased used to sit on floor at the carpets / rugs because of norms of society  but now u need chairs/sofas and obviously it cost more then the rented cost of carpets

A good factor of the society especially in rural and small cities in Indo-Pak sub-continent is that many family relatives, neighbors, friends, NGOs support the deceased family in this circumstances either through money or material but it is getting rare. If the government may make certain laws and take actions by binding the owners of graveyard not to take any money in terms of providing space then burden will be reduced on the deceased family.


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Sharing some real Life happenings / experiences …. 1

About a year ago, i was going home via Jail road, Lahore and saw traffic officers managing parking lane in the service road on both sides of the main road. They were lifting illegally parked customers cars through machine car lifter and instructing the car showroom dealers to put up their cars under the boundary of their shop (it is a culture in Pakistan that car showroom owners used to bring out their sale able cars on main road or on government owned space) . The action by the traffic officers against illegal occupation of service lane by car showroom dealers and main road by the customer cars was really a surprise for me. This continuous action was never done before and if they tried to do something to manage the traffic and to curb illegal parking in the past then either the action was conducted for just 2 to 3 days or  they faced heavily pressure from the political wings to stop it immediately due to their stake with the car association of the city.

I straight up went to one of the officer and asked him;

“Would you keep continue or stop the action after some days and come back again after months or even a year to conduct again?”

He replies: “No Sir, this time we will not let these people (traffic law breakers) to break the law and continue motoring them through our hawk eye”

I suddenly asked that what is the factor behind your motivation”?….he replied that

the current officer Chief traffic Officer: Capt (R) Syed Mubeen Ahmed (late) is not only strict but a strong leader too who is not giving a single inch space to traffic law breakers/violators and even we consider him as our shield. We got this brave leader after so many years because previous ones failed to implement the rule of law and even didn’t protected us from certain events when we junior officers were trying to enforce the law according to the merit. When ever, any thing worse happened with our team in the city during implementation of traffic rules, Mr. Mubeen became shield and protected us in the circumstances”

Unfortunately, CTO Lahore Capt (R) Syed Mubeen Ahmed martyred due to suicide attack at Mall road, Lahore along with another high profile Police Officer.

That junior officer further informed that the current Officer at the position of DSP feels shame to have a shake hand with us and treat us like we all officials of Traffic Police as his purchased servants (This was the same time when Mr. Mubeen was incharge).  Mr. Mubeen was the only officer who went by all means to protect his force personnel’s from the reaction of people and especially influential ones like politicians, high designated government officials who neither act on law nor give any value to it.

In Pakistan, city traffic management is a really difficult task due to increase number of vehicles each day, issuance of traffic licences before the year 2009 without taking any exams, less human resource in traffic department, rules and regulations are not that threatening for law breakers/violators, culture of showing powers and putting pressure on traffic officers through resources (money, own relatives/friends on the high government posts etc) not to use law against/by the violators (powers: if someone is a govt officer, has any relative in government), bribe to traffic police etc)

If you got the right leader and head of any department / organization, it means the whole organization and personals working under it will get success. Government organizations in Pakistan lacks right leadership or if there is then they have be brave enough to deal with the issues.

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My Grand Father gifted a Mansion (Havaili) to my Grand Mother after marriage in 1934

Preserving antique documents is important which provide you information about the past.

My Grand Father (Syed Zafar Hussain) gifted a hereditary Mansion which is also called / pronounced as “Havaili” in India-Pakistan (Constructed in 11 acre land) to my Grand Mother (Taj Sultana) on Thursday 29 March, 1934 (time: afternoon) as a marriage gift. The gifted Mansion was located at Mohala Mir Kundala, Patyala City of Patayala State.

This below picture of antique document is a legal paper (One & Two Rupee Stamp Paper) issued under the Government of Patayala State run by his highness Maharaj Dheeraj Patyala. [Note: Whole Indian sub-continent (Including India, Pakistan, Sirilanka, Neepal) was governed by British Empire till 1947 currently United Kingdom]. These styled legal papers were used to write clauses for transfer of property to others name considered as a legal binding on both the parties.

The writing on this legal document is in Urdu Language stating legal clauses for property/land transfer which is attested / stamped by Sub-Registrar / Magistrate (on the back side of legal paper) of the Patyala State in the presence of witnesses. Also, a small map of location is mentioned at the end of front page.

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A legal deed of 1934 (elaborating transfer of legal rights from my Grand Father to Grand Mother regarding land / house (Mansion (Havaili)) at Patyala City of Punjab State)

The purpose of sharing this antique document is to give you idea about the style of legal papers prevailed during 1930’s in the Indo-Pak (India – Pakistan) Subcontinent 

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Debatable Lines – 31 (…..Lets Do It….)

Most of us are enjoying luxuries & facilities of life such as three times food, money in our pockets, owing land / properties, home to live, amount in banks, cars, adequate income sources etc whereas, on the other side there are many humans in our surroundings who are not only struggling to have one time food / homeless but also finding difficulties in managing education, health needs & fulfilling the daily livelihood of their families / beloved ones. Out of these, many are jobless or unable to earn the specified amount needed to full fill the daily obligations of life and living.

We all know that

humans can help humans and no other creature can

If we can contribute a specific amount on daily / weekly or monthly basis from our pocket may be at least one Dollar / Rupee / Euro etc for these people and help them getting food / home / school or college fee / health expense / job etc. Just consider that if 100 people contribute then it will become $100 or 1000 people it becomes $1000.

This combine effort will help in fulfilling the needs of people around us may be they are in our neighborhood / family / friends / people sitting on roads / markets. The effort will make a huge difference in ending the miseries and make the society / city / country prosperous. We should take step and trust our self’s instead of waiting for Governments or NGOs to do any effort.  Helping other human beings in their difficult times is a greatest worship, resulting in establishing our name in the book of best deeds when presented in front of God on the judgment day.

……………… So Lets do it ………………

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Debatable Lines….30 (Respect & care for older people)

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Debatable Lines 29 (Five things for we human kill each other)

In my point of view, we humans (majority) in this world are killing other humans or usurp the rights of each other for Five things which are as follow…..;

  1. Power

  2. Money

  3. Property / Land 

  4. Jewelry / Ornaments 

  5. Women

(You may agree or not)

By Azfar

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My First Position in the start of educational career….

Winning prizes in the competition among many is a motivation and recognition of someones ability and work. I still remember when i won first position in the class (in the start of my educational career with Nobel Grammer School at Lahore). I was sick (having fever) at the day of ceremony and my Mom went to school to pick up my result. But the Principal of the school (Mrs. T. Khaliq) asked her to bring your child because he has shown remarkable result and won first/top prize among the class of 55 students in studies.

On the same day, after about one hour i went to the school with my mom and still remember that we were sitting in the last row of the whole ceremony area. When my name was announced and i stepped up towards the ceremonial stage remember the claps all around . I had secured first position in the class and the Principal of the school handed over the prize which was the book having her note on it with green pen.

She also asked my mother that this child should immediately be promoted to the more superior class due to his brilliant performance in the studies and i completed two years studies in only one year.


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