One question that comes always in my mind that how much freedom you got to make decision for your own self. Obviously, there is no doubt that we are born free and got powers to make decision for our own self but in Asian countries certain pressure from your family and even social responsibilities won’t make or let it easy for you to make decision for yourself or to do what ever you like. For example, if you want to choose a career, you do face enormous pressure from your immediate family members such as from parents, siblings and other close relatives. Then comes other society members like friends, colleagues etc play influential role in your life. Other part is your own self which get frightened due to a certain fear of losing any thing important u have to survive in the society because you are taking certain step or making decision for your self beyond the norm’s. These things never make you strong enough to live a life that you want to. May be its also important and true that people around you control you from taking such steps which might become dangerous due to your ignorance or unconsciousness about the drastic results or outcomes.
I give you my example that when i decided to join LUMS (University) for two years degree program in 2018 and to leave ongoing good job with government organization, the people around me were amazed to notice my decision that i am well settled with the job and why should i be leaving job just for studies. Many including family members, colleagues asked me to join any weekend studies program (based on Saturdays or Sundays) but don’t leave the job as it is difficult to find it afterwards. (I also got admission in University of San Francisco this year 2018 for Masters degree in Urban Governance but didn’t went there and chosen LUMS for M.Phil, however thinking about next years fall to move…lets see….. also even Massachusetts Institute of Technology – MIT invited me for final interview (physical appearance at their campus) for MBA program which i missed in 2017)
It is obvious you get detract from your stance when you think that a good salary package is coming each month to your way and there is not enough work burden, you counter in the job. I had a good reputation in my organization and leading person of my organization has always given me an honor and respect since my joining. When i informed my colleagues, all encouraged me except one. My immediate boss Mr. S.Iftikhar who is working as acting GM and somewhat jealous in previous years because of the appreciation I always got from the head of organization. That GM said an unusual sentence when i informed him about my admission at LUMS almost 2 months before the start of classes, he then said “should I eliminate your name from new years budget“…means he was trying to get rid of me more earlier to the date I wanted to resign…hehehe.
Your decision also become hurdle for yourself and society never see it in a positive way. Society trend for marriage is also different in my country then that of other countries but some what similar in India or Bangladesh. Mostly marriages happen through a arrange way but now trend is changing and couples are getting together through love marriages. Love marriage tends to happen through court and arrange way too. My Mom has never stopped me from taking any decision but she was a bit concern that what would she say when any family of a girl for a Rishta (proposal of a girl for me) ask that what and where your son is working now or how much he is earning? … because in Pakistani Society where you get married normally through a arrange way (family to family talks and decision) families consider you if you have any earning source like job or business which is not compulsory in case of love marriages (where boy and girl decide themselves)…. My mom is very liberal and has given me full authority to get married with any girl of the world i want to (hehehehe)… but she wants me to do it at earliest.
When i decided to pursue studies and leave current job there were many things in my consideration. One was the strong believe that Allah Almighty (God) is a master of each and everything in this whole universe and he will open gates for job / earnings even after the studies as i was earning before.
When i read this sayings (in Surah Saba – verse 39) by Allah Almighty, my believe strengthened more and also due to past record when i was jobless for a quite sometime. But then earning avenues opened by the blessing of God and it continued for many years till now. So, whenever Allah Almighty (God) will like he will open more gates even after the studies and if he will not then you cant do anything except to wait for his blessings because he is the only powerful and merciful in this whole universe.
What happened is that we (almost all human except pious ones in this world) have left total reliability and believe in the God that is called “TAWAKAL” (in Urdu). It doesn’t mean that we should sit idol and do nothing and wait for God’s blessing but to put all effort and await for his blessings.